40 Day of No Complaining and No Gossiping

For the Intuition Module of Path to Grace one of the practises we are encouraging is a 40 days of no complaining and no gossiping.

Now some of you may be thinking that this is an easy option, but before you start leaping with joy for not being asked to hold your arms at a 60 degree angle for 20 mins I invite you to think for a moment about how many times you either complain, or talk about another person.

And how many times you are not even really aware that you are doing it!

Now I can find a lot to complain about... My husband is deployed at the moment, I have 4 kids, 4 sets of after school activities, 4 mouths to feed...you get the story. But I have noticed that complaining does not make me feel better. It brings me deeper into despair and my biggest awareness is that I believe it fuels my anxiety.

I am not an obvious anxiety sufferer. But sometimes and particularly when my husband is away I experience a greater susceptibility to anxiety and this triggers patterns in me that I have worked hard to put to sleep.

It seems to me that the more I complain the more energy I am bringing to this negativity within my life.

I would just like to clarify one thing though, and that is that not complaining does not mean that you have to pretend or be inauthentic. There are days when things go wrong, there are days when we really need the support of others and there are days that we need to talk about what is happening.

What I have noticed though is that when practising a deeper level of self awareness there is not the same need to talk as much, complain as much or even complain at all.

We are able to recognise what is.

Recently I had a car accident. Someone drove into the back of my car.

When it happened I was shocked. I even observed an anger in my body. But then when I saw the other person I realised that absolutely nothing was going to change what had happened.

It had already happened and all I could do was influence this next moment. I asked how he was.

I got his details. I told him that the most important thing was that both of us were ok.

And this was my truth.

What I found afterwards was that I did not have such a strong desire to complain about it, bitch about it, go on and on about it.

I had not supressed any of my emotions I had recognised the truth of the situation and therefore it seems that there wasn't the fuel.

Moving onto gossip....

Since undertaking my Kundalini teacher training I have been blessed with women in my life who have helped to raise me up to be the best version of myself. We support each in this by making choices around how we choose to "chat".

Whilst I am not going to paint a picture of a group of women all wearing white, behaving whiter than white at all times...we do try very hard to maintain a higher vibration and have an awareness of what it is that we are saying.

Yogi Bhajan defined gossip as any kind of talk about someone who is not present. Whether you speak highly of someone or speak lowly of someone, if that someone is not within earshot of what you are saying, it’s all gossip.


This is an opportunity to truly observe your behaviour, both your thoughts and your words. At times what you notice in your mind may not make you feel good about yourself.

This is normal.

Just like any other practise it will bring stuff up for you, challenge you and help you to clear even more 'stuff'.

During this module of Path to Grace we are chanting the mantra Ek Ong Kar Sat Gur Prasad, Sat Gur Prasad, Ek Ong Kar.

This mantra comes with the warning that it is such powerful and creative mantra that we must watch our thoughts and and actions. It will bring us into such a powerful state of manifestation that even our thoughts will accelerate into being.

This mantra takes negative thought, stops it in its tracks and reverses it to positivity.

Practising no complaining and no gossiping is the perfect accompaniment to this mantra and meditation.

It is 40 days in which we can bring ourselves into a new level of conscious awareness.

Where we can stay connected to our higher self, our higher truth, our soul.

Where we can find a quietness we may not usually experience and learn from this place.

I hope you will join us in this 40 day practise.

Please share your insights.

You can also join me every morning for live Sadhana on the Graceful women Facebook Page.

All love and Sat Nam

Sirgun x

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